The dare I have been having a horrible time with recently is greeting my spouse in a fantastic and loving way. This problem stems from the fact that Reid has been coming home WAY after I got to bed.
Today however this was not an issue because it rained a lot and Reid did light work today. I went out on the "town" with 2 dear friends-- Lizzie and Tara-- for a night of opera. So when I got home Reid was already here relaxing so I greeted him warmly and then asked him about his day as well as his supper and what he had been doing.
This one is a short and easy thing to do simply decide if you want to be nice to your spouse when you get home or not.
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Love is not Jealous
Thought of the day: It is hard not to resent your spouse when they do more things than you can do because of their circumstances.
For example, I can do more things in the evening and on the weekends because I work a Monday through Friday job and I have set hours. While I appreciate how hard Reid works I know he gets upset that I am always doing stuff. I can make a difference for Reid by trying to come see him out on the farm on the weekend.
Today's dare was to destroy the list of negative qualities that I made about Reid. I do not play with fire so tomorrow I will shred it at school. I also need to share in a success that Reid has recently had. This part is going to be so hard for me because the days are getting longer and we are seeing each other less and less. I need to pledge to do more to find time with Reid.
Hopefully tomorrow will go smoothly because I am so tired right now!
For example, I can do more things in the evening and on the weekends because I work a Monday through Friday job and I have set hours. While I appreciate how hard Reid works I know he gets upset that I am always doing stuff. I can make a difference for Reid by trying to come see him out on the farm on the weekend.
Today's dare was to destroy the list of negative qualities that I made about Reid. I do not play with fire so tomorrow I will shred it at school. I also need to share in a success that Reid has recently had. This part is going to be so hard for me because the days are getting longer and we are seeing each other less and less. I need to pledge to do more to find time with Reid.
Hopefully tomorrow will go smoothly because I am so tired right now!
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Love Believes the Best- Day 7
Today's theme includes the idea that we all have appreciation rooms for our spouse where we have stored all of the qualities that impress us and originally attracted us to them. What is in your room?
We also have a depreciation room where we store things that irritate us about our spouse. These things come from being let down, having hurt feelings, and from DOUBT. I call this the abrasive room because it encourages you to be mad and start fights. What is in this room? If this were last year I would be telling you that I NEVER left this room but after a lot of hard work I only dwell in the depreciation room when Reid has really hurt my feelings or let me down.
This day's dare includes settling down in the Appreciation Room and making it your home in order to focus on the positive things about your spouse. Today also requires that you choose whether you dwell in positive or negative light, so what do you choose?
The BIG part of the dare is to make a list of positive and negative attributes about my spouse and save them for a later day. BUT I am required to tell Reid one positive attribute that he has and thank him for that. I am choosing to thank Reid for being a hard worker because some day he will be able to instill the values of hard work into our children.
We also have a depreciation room where we store things that irritate us about our spouse. These things come from being let down, having hurt feelings, and from DOUBT. I call this the abrasive room because it encourages you to be mad and start fights. What is in this room? If this were last year I would be telling you that I NEVER left this room but after a lot of hard work I only dwell in the depreciation room when Reid has really hurt my feelings or let me down.
This day's dare includes settling down in the Appreciation Room and making it your home in order to focus on the positive things about your spouse. Today also requires that you choose whether you dwell in positive or negative light, so what do you choose?
The BIG part of the dare is to make a list of positive and negative attributes about my spouse and save them for a later day. BUT I am required to tell Reid one positive attribute that he has and thank him for that. I am choosing to thank Reid for being a hard worker because some day he will be able to instill the values of hard work into our children.
Saturday, April 10, 2010
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH back from the dead (or so it seems)
I got very sick in January and at that time did not continue to blog. Which I must say I have missed and then things came up (as they usually do), I went out of town, took a certification exam, and am now finally in a place where I feel like I can blog again!
So I left off on Day 6 of the dare.... and I admit there are times when I say and do the wrong thing but Reid and I are still working so that means something.
Day 6... Love is not Irritable. The dare says, "Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life."
This question has been eluding me for months. I don't know why but it has been the hardest thing for me to think of even though I know all of the areas where I fall short. I am going to take to heart that margin in my life means FLEXIBILITY. I need to be more flexible when it comes to projects around the house because I know that Reid is busy: he cannot always drop everything to help me.
Another thing the dare asks me to center on is places I have been overreacting. I LAUGH at this since I am the queen of that activity! Although I am not sure I have been overreacting at home because Duke was the little shredder that Reid wanted to name him the other day and I calmly called Reid and told him what happened and he calmly reacted.
Today I looked at everything head on as well and did not panic or get stressed out when I was doing things in the yard I wanted Reid to do. So I just took over and I survived. It all worked out!
So I left off on Day 6 of the dare.... and I admit there are times when I say and do the wrong thing but Reid and I are still working so that means something.
Day 6... Love is not Irritable. The dare says, "Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life."
This question has been eluding me for months. I don't know why but it has been the hardest thing for me to think of even though I know all of the areas where I fall short. I am going to take to heart that margin in my life means FLEXIBILITY. I need to be more flexible when it comes to projects around the house because I know that Reid is busy: he cannot always drop everything to help me.
Another thing the dare asks me to center on is places I have been overreacting. I LAUGH at this since I am the queen of that activity! Although I am not sure I have been overreacting at home because Duke was the little shredder that Reid wanted to name him the other day and I calmly called Reid and told him what happened and he calmly reacted.
Today I looked at everything head on as well and did not panic or get stressed out when I was doing things in the yard I wanted Reid to do. So I just took over and I survived. It all worked out!
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